Inner Game And How To Not Feel Like A Doofus

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How can a doofus like me be really good with women?  Read on . . .

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OK, . . . I just spilled my coffee . . . in public . . . again.

I was sitting at Starbucks, reached for my notebook, and knocked my coffee right on the floor.

I felt like a doofus.

Of course I did my best to spin the frame, but I still felt like a clumsy doofus.

I seem to do the same thing about every three years.  Out of nowhere I get clumsy and spill my coffee.

You might think I SHOULD feel like a doofus for spilling my coffee in public, but as I thought about it, . . . I realized something . . .

I actually don’t spill my coffee that often, . . . considering . . .

Do a little math with me here.

I get 3 cups of joe a day, pretty religiously.

There are 365 days in a year.

At 3 years, that’s 3285 cups of coffee per spill.

And if we estimate that I pick up each cup 10 times while drinking it . . .

I actually successfully pick up my coffee 32849 times for every time I spill it.

That’s frickin 99.997% accuracy.

Show me a basketball player who can shoot free throws with that accuracy.

Show me a place kicker in football who can kick extra points with that accuracy.

Seriously, man.  That’s frickin accurate.

Isn’t it?

I can’t think of many other things I’m that accurate with.

But here’s what’s crazy.

I’m 99.997% accurate, but I

still feel like a doofus when I fail

to pick up my coffee without spilling.

So then I thought, . . . what happens when we fail to get a good response when approaching a woman?

If I feel like a doofus when I spill a cup of coffee, it feels even worse after a clumsy approach.

There’s shame, embarrassment, feelings of inadequacy, and on and on.

Add to that the fact that even the world’s best pick up artists succeed only one time in three . . .

It’s no wonder guys all over the world

freak out about approaching women. 

If you’re not good with women, you might succeed only one time in 10.  And if you decide you’re going to approach a woman every day, you can look forward to feeling very bad emotions a whole bunch of days in a row.

When you’re just starting out (you’re young, or just getting out of a long relationship), it’s enough to make you want to just give up sometimes.

Even if you’re something of a player, you might still feel vulnerable at times.

That’s why . . .

It’s vitally important to get your inner game in order.

In order to succeed with women, you have to do one of two things:

1.  figure out how to not get rejected as often.

2.  figure out how to not feel like a doofus when you do get rejected.

I’ll have a lot of advice about #1 in the coming months.

But for #2, pick up the FREE report on this page (if you’ve already got this, read it again!):

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Take Care.

T.P.

P.S. Anyone else have a clumsy bone?  Feel free to comment.

How To Flirt With Women . . . (cleverly)

Ever get tongue-tied when talking with an attractive woman?  Not know what to say?

I’m going to get you going on the right track today.

But you’re going to have to do a little bit of work over time.

Here’s how to verbally flirt with women in a nutshell:

1. The best approach is to respond quickly (spontaneously) to something she says or does, or something that happens around you.
2. Your reply should re-frame reality in a fun way.  For instance, if a woman is kneeling down at the bookstore to see books on the bottom shelf, you could interpret her act as an act of worship to you.  That’s a really strong and fun frame.  You could say something like, “Oh, it’s great that you’re bowing down to me and all, but I stopped requiring that years ago . . .”
3. Your frame needs to suggest things that support your goals — that you’re the prize, that she’s trying to impress you, etc.
4. You should deliver your line with an attitude of playful arrogance.  Act like a big man, but make her feel like you’re on her side.  Let a smile be right under the surface.

So, how do you come up with lines that meet all these conditions on the fly?

You don’t.

You prepare your lines ahead of time, so you’ll be ready when you need them..

How?

You write down all the situations you might find yourself in that you’d like to have a good line for, and then you brainstorm good lines for those situations.

Where do you come up with these ideas?

• From situations you’ve been in and didn’t have a good line for
• From just thinking about your life, and the situations you tend to find yourself in the presence of beautiful women in.
• From times you actually came up with something good to say.
• From other guys.  Have them share their flirting lines/situations with you.

Once you have a list of situations, just try to come up with a few lines for each that meet all the criteria above.

YOU WANT SOMETHING COOL TO GET YOU STARTED?

I’ve created a web-based brainstorming tool for flirting.  It allows you to:

• View hundreds of situation-specific flirting lines created by other guys already — in order of their rating.
• Rate those lines.
• Create your own flirting lines and contribute them to the collection.

This is the SAME flirting tool I offer as a $30 bonus with my book Flirting Deconstructed, and I think you’ll see, once you use it, it’s worth far more than that.

You can use it for free. 

Here’s the link:

http://www.how2flirt.com/flirtwithgirls/flirt_tool/flirting_tool.php

Enjoy!

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S. for a complete course on this flirting method, pick up a copy of Flirting Deconstructed

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