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Confident body language

Confident body language — up, out, relax, water . . .

I’m going to tell you, in this very post, pretty much all you
need to know about having confident body language when you stand or
walk.

But none will probably help you as much as the 4 simple tips I’ll
give you below.

What we’re after here is THE APPEARANCE OF CONFIDENCE.

Now I said the “APPEARANCE” of confidence.  Because that’s how it
starts out.  If you’re not really confident right now, you will
apply the techniques in this email. You will work on your posture
when you stand and walk, and it will give you the appearance of
confidence.

But over time . . . your posture, and your swagger, will transform
you.

And, before you know it . . .

you’ll have REAL confidence.

That’s how it works.  Sometimes the best way to achieve a state of
MIND is to first achieve a state of BODY.

So here’s the secret . . .

“Up, out, relax, water.”

Learn those 4 words.  Commit them to memory.  And use them
every time you stand or walk in public.

This is what I say to myself whenever I go out in the world.  It’s
my way of remembering how to have a good posture, and a cool walk.

Good posture is important when you present yourself to women.  They
will size you up before you even say a word to them, so you want to
put the best foot forward.

So let’s go through each element.

UP:  Try to stand up as tall as you can.  I don’t mean like a
robot.  But imagine a string is pulling up from the top of your
head, lifting you as high as you can go without taking you off the
ground.  If you do it correctly, you will actually feel lighter on
your feet.

OUT:  Take up space.  Let your shoulders roll outward, and let your
arms follow.  This will give you an open posture.

Remember, thumbs should point more or less forward with shoulders
out.  Don’t point your thumbs toward your body with the back of
your hands facing forward.  That will make you look like a caveman
with low self-esteem.

RELAX:  Once you’re up and out, things are good.  But it’s easy to
come off as stiff if you don’t remind yourself to relax at this
point.  So after you get up and out, take a deep breath and relax.

Finally,

WATER:  Imagine yourself in water up to your belly button.  Now
think about what it’s like to walk through that water.  There’s
kind of a slowness about it.  Your limbs kind of lazily drag
through the water.

That’s a good thing.  That kind of cadence to your step will make
you come off as relaxed and confident.

Now don’t overdo the water thing.  It’s a metaphor to take you in
the right direction.  Play with it some, and I think you’ll be
surprised about how much more cool you can make your walk.

Work on this until it feels at least a little comfortable, and then
take it into the world.

That’s it.  If you get these 4 things down, and run through your
checklist every time you step into the world, you are on your way
to becoming a more confident man.

– T.P.

Inner Game And How To Not Feel Like A Doofus

. . .

How can a doofus like me be really good with women?  Read on . . .

. . .

OK, . . . I just spilled my coffee . . . in public . . . again.

I was sitting at Starbucks, reached for my notebook, and knocked my coffee right on the floor.

I felt like a doofus.

Of course I did my best to spin the frame, but I still felt like a clumsy doofus.

I seem to do the same thing about every three years.  Out of nowhere I get clumsy and spill my coffee.

You might think I SHOULD feel like a doofus for spilling my coffee in public, but as I thought about it, . . . I realized something . . .

I actually don’t spill my coffee that often, . . . considering . . .

Do a little math with me here.

I get 3 cups of joe a day, pretty religiously.

There are 365 days in a year.

At 3 years, that’s 3285 cups of coffee per spill.

And if we estimate that I pick up each cup 10 times while drinking it . . .

I actually successfully pick up my coffee 32849 times for every time I spill it.

That’s frickin 99.997% accuracy.

Show me a basketball player who can shoot free throws with that accuracy.

Show me a place kicker in football who can kick extra points with that accuracy.

Seriously, man.  That’s frickin accurate.

Isn’t it?

I can’t think of many other things I’m that accurate with.

But here’s what’s crazy.

I’m 99.997% accurate, but I

still feel like a doofus when I fail

to pick up my coffee without spilling.

So then I thought, . . . what happens when we fail to get a good response when approaching a woman?

If I feel like a doofus when I spill a cup of coffee, it feels even worse after a clumsy approach.

There’s shame, embarrassment, feelings of inadequacy, and on and on.

Add to that the fact that even the world’s best pick up artists succeed only one time in three . . .

It’s no wonder guys all over the world

freak out about approaching women. 

If you’re not good with women, you might succeed only one time in 10.  And if you decide you’re going to approach a woman every day, you can look forward to feeling very bad emotions a whole bunch of days in a row.

When you’re just starting out (you’re young, or just getting out of a long relationship), it’s enough to make you want to just give up sometimes.

Even if you’re something of a player, you might still feel vulnerable at times.

That’s why . . .

It’s vitally important to get your inner game in order.

In order to succeed with women, you have to do one of two things:

1.  figure out how to not get rejected as often.

2.  figure out how to not feel like a doofus when you do get rejected.

I’ll have a lot of advice about #1 in the coming months.

But for #2, pick up the FREE report on this page (if you’ve already got this, read it again!):

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Take Care.

T.P.

P.S. Anyone else have a clumsy bone?  Feel free to comment.

How To Flirt With Women . . . (cleverly)

Ever get tongue-tied when talking with an attractive woman?  Not know what to say?

I’m going to get you going on the right track today.

But you’re going to have to do a little bit of work over time.

Here’s how to verbally flirt with women in a nutshell:

1. The best approach is to respond quickly (spontaneously) to something she says or does, or something that happens around you.
2. Your reply should re-frame reality in a fun way.  For instance, if a woman is kneeling down at the bookstore to see books on the bottom shelf, you could interpret her act as an act of worship to you.  That’s a really strong and fun frame.  You could say something like, “Oh, it’s great that you’re bowing down to me and all, but I stopped requiring that years ago . . .”
3. Your frame needs to suggest things that support your goals — that you’re the prize, that she’s trying to impress you, etc.
4. You should deliver your line with an attitude of playful arrogance.  Act like a big man, but make her feel like you’re on her side.  Let a smile be right under the surface.

So, how do you come up with lines that meet all these conditions on the fly?

You don’t.

You prepare your lines ahead of time, so you’ll be ready when you need them..

How?

You write down all the situations you might find yourself in that you’d like to have a good line for, and then you brainstorm good lines for those situations.

Where do you come up with these ideas?

• From situations you’ve been in and didn’t have a good line for
• From just thinking about your life, and the situations you tend to find yourself in the presence of beautiful women in.
• From times you actually came up with something good to say.
• From other guys.  Have them share their flirting lines/situations with you.

Once you have a list of situations, just try to come up with a few lines for each that meet all the criteria above.

YOU WANT SOMETHING COOL TO GET YOU STARTED?

I’ve created a web-based brainstorming tool for flirting.  It allows you to:

• View hundreds of situation-specific flirting lines created by other guys already — in order of their rating.
• Rate those lines.
• Create your own flirting lines and contribute them to the collection.

This is the SAME flirting tool I offer as a $30 bonus with my book Flirting Deconstructed, and I think you’ll see, once you use it, it’s worth far more than that.

You can use it for free. 

Here’s the link:

http://www.how2flirt.com/flirtwithgirls/flirt_tool/flirting_tool.php

Enjoy!

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S. for a complete course on this flirting method, pick up a copy of Flirting Deconstructed

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