Confident body language
Confident body language — up, out, relax, water . . .
I’m going to tell you, in this very post, pretty much all you
need to know about having confident body language when you stand or
language, women will let you say things to them that they wouldn’t
let you say otherwise.
are good, and some are fluffy Cosmo-style stuff that doesn’t help
you get what you really want when you work on your body language.
But none will probably help you as much as the 4 simple tips I’ll
give you below.
What we’re after here is THE APPEARANCE OF CONFIDENCE.
Now I said the “APPEARANCE” of confidence. Because that’s how it
starts out. If you’re not really confident right now, you will
apply the techniques in this email. You will work on your posture
when you stand and walk, and it will give you the appearance of
But over time . . . your posture, and your swagger, will transform
And, before you know it . . .
you’ll have REAL confidence.
That’s how it works. Sometimes the best way to achieve a state of
MIND is to first achieve a state of BODY.
So here’s the secret . . .
“Up, out, relax, water.”
Learn those 4 words. Commit them to memory. And use them
every time you stand or walk in public.
This is what I say to myself whenever I go out in the world. It’s
my way of remembering how to have a good posture, and a cool walk.
Good posture is important when you present yourself to women. They
will size you up before you even say a word to them, so you want to
put the best foot forward.
So let’s go through each element.
UP: Try to stand up as tall as you can. I don’t mean like a
robot. But imagine a string is pulling up from the top of your
head, lifting you as high as you can go without taking you off the
ground. If you do it correctly, you will actually feel lighter on
OUT: Take up space. Let your shoulders roll outward, and let your
arms follow. This will give you an open posture.
Remember, thumbs should point more or less forward with shoulders
out. Don’t point your thumbs toward your body with the back of
your hands facing forward. That will make you look like a caveman
with low self-esteem.
RELAX: Once you’re up and out, things are good. But it’s easy to
come off as stiff if you don’t remind yourself to relax at this
point. So after you get up and out, take a deep breath and relax.
WATER: Imagine yourself in water up to your belly button. Now
think about what it’s like to walk through that water. There’s
kind of a slowness about it. Your limbs kind of lazily drag
through the water.
That’s a good thing. That kind of cadence to your step will make
you come off as relaxed and confident.
Now don’t overdo the water thing. It’s a metaphor to take you in
the right direction. Play with it some, and I think you’ll be
surprised about how much more cool you can make your walk.
Work on this until it feels at least a little comfortable, and then
take it into the world.
That’s it. If you get these 4 things down, and run through your
checklist every time you step into the world, you are on your way
to becoming a more confident man.